Wave of light for pregnancy & infant loss
Anyone who has suffered a miscarriage, and the number is higher than you would expect, an ectopic pregnancy, a stillbirth or lost a baby in the first four weeks of its life, knows this incredible pain, which never leaves one completely. It is important to know, it is not only affecting you, but also the partner, the grandparents, siblings, other relatives or friends.
That is why on October 15 we are remembering our precious little babies. Some call them little angels and in-fertility is asking you to not just remember, but also spread knowledge about miscarriages, molar pregnancy, stillbirth as well as SIDS and other causes. in-fertility includes this information into its FFF education program*, because in those under the age of 35 the risk is about 10% while it is about 45% in those over the age of 40.
It was on October 25, 1988 when the US President Ronald Reagan designated the entire month of October 1988 as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month for the very first time. The October 15 Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day Campaign began in 2002 as an American movement started by three brave women, Robyn Bear, Lisa Brown and Tammy Novak. Together, they petitioned the federal government, as well as the governors of each of the 50 states. The October 15 is since then observed annually in the United States, Canada, United Kingdom, Australian states of Western Australia, New South Wales, and in Italy. We in-fertility hope to spread it to the remaining countries as well. Your help is much appreciated.
There are many ways you can remember and try to handle the grief. There are candle-lighting vigils, concluding with the Lights of Love, the International Wave of Light, a worldwide lighting of candles that encompasses and spans the globe at 7:00 p.m. of your local time. PAIL candles should remain lit for a period of at least an hour. The result is a continuous chain of light spanning the globe for a 24-hour period in honour and remembrance of the children who pass away during pregnancy and in infancy.
As for the miscarriage statistics, the risk begins to increase around the age of 30. About 80% of miscarriages occur in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy, during the first trimester. Among females who know they are pregnant, the miscarriage rate is roughly 10% to 20% while rates among all fertilisation is around 30% to 50%. About 5% of females have two miscarriages in a row, which often leaves them desperate for finding a reason for their immense loss.
The experts agree it is extremely important to have time to grieve. Again, compassion and sensitivity are the key as you cannot really understand unless you were looking forward to your body being the best safe heaven for the miracle od your love and all of the sudden there is just pain, sadness and anxiety about any future pregnancy. It seems so difficult to describe, there is no word for it. When a partner loses the other one, he or she is called a widow or a widower, when the child loses a parent, it is an orphan. There is no word for mothers, who did not become mothers. But there is hope and love. Let it fill your home and hearts tonight. Light the candle at seven p.m. and send a picture with a short message on facebook or Twitter. Thank you.
FFF education program* – Fertility, Family & Future, the Education programme of the in-fertility network for 2017.